When You Don’t Talk to the Animals

August 7, 2015 by  
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Even AC Professionals Can Make Mistakes

Feral cat, Hattie, lives in my backyard.Hattie

My apologies.  Forgiveness humbly requested.

It's so easy to fall back into old habits.  Most humans believe that we are the intelligent ones and we ought to be making all the decisions.  So even when we know better, we can forget that when we have animals in our family, every decision we make can affect their feelings and their lives.

The new kid in town.Purrley

When I realized Purrley was abandoned and in need of food, did I ask each of the cats how she felt about my feeding Purrley?


Did I try to get a buy-in?


Did I consider how their lives would be affected?


I saw a needy animal and made my decision and blundered forward.

As a result of this, Hattie has disappeared.  She left 3 mornings ago and hasn't returned.  Other years, Hattie has gone off hunting for days at a time, returning to rest and stock up on some additional nutrition, but she hasn't done that all summer this year.  After all, she's around 16 now and slowing down a bit.

The morning she left, I put out her breakfast, and she refused to eat it.  She sniffed it, and walked away.  I saw her go.  She was clearly upset by the expression on her face and the energy of her telepathic feelings.

There are a few other aspects to this that contributed to bringing this all to a head.

First of all, when I decided to feed Purrley, I needed to buy more of the canned food I was offering.  I was unable to reorder it because the place where I get it has stopped carrying it.  So I upgraded to a better quality food.

Hattie accused me of getting better food because of Purrley.  I can understand why she sees it this way, but truly it was not something I planned.

Secondly, Hattie has often told people in the TWA (Telepathy with Animals:  Animal Communication Coaching Program) that she wants to be thought of as a member of the family.  Well, sometimes I think about her this way, but not really.   I often think about her as an afterthought.  With Purrley showing up, she's feeling pushed aside, and this comes from my tending to omit her from the "family" in the first place.

I guess I have some serious bridge-building to do here.

I had one conversation with her yesterday that was mostly me talking and her listening.  I apologized.  I asked her to come home.  I was definite that I think of this as her home.

I guess I have to be satisfied that she at least was willing to listen.  I listened too, and mostly received her feelings of anger and sadness.

Thirdly, I've got to learn to control my thoughts better.  When I decided to feed Purrley, what went through my mind was not just helping out another cat.  It was also that Hattie is getting on in years and because of how wonderful she's been taking care of the yard, I would love to have another cat living there.

Talk about sending the wrong message to Hattie.

Animals in our lives hear EVERYTHING we're thinking, especially when we're thinking about them or something that concerns or affects them.

That's how telepathy works, unless you put up blocks, which it is possible to do, but we don't do it, do we?  So we allow our thoughts to chatter away without taking any responsibility for the fact that they radiate outwards.

We're all part of the human group consciousness, so everything we think and feel is sensed by all of humanity at some level.  Did you know that we receive telepathically from all of humanity whether or not we're aware of it?

The same is true without our own families, and for the most part, even more strongly.

Big lesson! 

Take responsibility for every thought and

feeling that I'm putting out there.

Big lesson! 

It's far better to explain and get a buy-in from

all family members before charging forward. 

I tell my clients this all the time.

I ought to know better.

My cats continue to teach me.

Thank you, Hattie.  And please come home.


7 Responses to “When You Don’t Talk to the Animals”
  1. Josh Coen says:

    Nedda, thank you for sharing this reminder about open and ongoing communication! I do think getting consensus can be a healthy way to keep peace in the family. On the other hand — and I think about this kind of situation a lot — what if your decision, the addition of Purrley, is an opportunity for family members to practice flexibility, kindness, generosity, charity, etc.? Perhaps this was simply a growth opportunity and you played the part perfectly. If so, then maybe you can go a little easier on yourself over this!

  2. Jennifer says:

    Thank you, Nedda, for reminding us we must talk to our animals and inform them when any change happens in their life or when we intend to do anything that may or may not affect their life.

    Recently I decided to stop putting some cortisone cream on my cat who has licking sores. She accepted me doing it at the beginning but now she hisses (very unusual for her), meows, etc… when I do it. I’ll be away for a few days and will resume a less strong way of healing her after I’m back. I just talked to her and she said it wasn’t doing her any good any more.
    I turned to cortisone because of me, because I was just feeling uncomfortable when she was repeatedly licking her sores.


    • Dear Jennifer,

      The key, I believe, is to have a two-way conversation with them.

      I did tell the cats that I was going to feed Purrley, but I didn’t ask them how they felt about it or even whether or not they would accept him as a new member of our family/community, even just on the outskirts of it.

      This was disrespectful on my part.

      I didn’t include them in the decision-making.

      Good for you that you’re now listening to your cat.

      BTW – there are some alternative healing possibilities for your cat’s sores. Perhaps you and your cat would want to explore these when you return.

  3. Doug Hagens says:

    Nedda, in cases like this I just say — I FORGIVE MYSELF I FORGIVE MYSELF I FORGIVE MYSELF I LOVE MYSELF I LOVE MYSELF I LOVE MYSELF — touching my heart each time.

    • Yes, Doug. I’m familiar with this prayer and I have used it. ALSO, and perhaps even more importantly, I took the time to sit down and have a real conversation with Hattie. More about that in my next blog post.